lessons in love: part 1

*** DISCLAIMER: this may not be what you want to hear. It is however what you NEED to hear***


First off, let me start off by saying love is more than an emotion or a feeling; love is a state of being and a way of life, and many fail to realize. It pains me so much to see how foolish people can be about love, or what they may think is love. If you're looking for a "textbook" definition of the word love, it is as follows: Love - unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another, warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion. Love is selfless, and many times, tireless. Love is not easy. However, as i quote often, "A perfect love can overcome any worldly obstacle, or mental insecurity" - Tresa Joy. Moving on now...

What you'll find many times is that what you're feeling is NOT love. It is in fact L-U-S-T. Pay attention now... There is a major difference. Lust is defined as follows: unbridled sexual desire. Now let's get deeper into this one. Sex = Love is a FALSE idealism. If that's how you feel, you are sadly mistaken, and if you continue to read, I'll give you some clarity. I understand you're young, and that sex is a part of the world we live in now. Many of you don't see a real need to be serious about things, but it's crucial for people not to misuse words. Words have power. Please don't be confused.

To the ladies:
If a young man says to you anything along the lines of "if you really love me, you'll have sex with me..." it is BULL. Clearly, this man does not care about you. Sex is a major commitment in itself. It is orchestrated by none other than God himself. If a man says that in order to keep him, you must meet his needs [sexually], that's NOT the man you need to be with. Simply because you're going against what you hold close as morals and values. A man who respects you will come in time. You may not want to hear it, but I promise it's true. If you consciously go for it after reading this, I won't call you dumb; however, you are in fact a simple broad. SHAME ON YOU! Many times the man(or boy) you think you're "in love" with is nothing but a figment of your imagination. Sure, he looks good, but what about the interior? Think about that one...

To the gentlemen:
Don't get me wrong. The ladies in fact do bring this upon themselves many times. I do however feel that it's time for you to step up, and MAN up. Don't play the same tricks on females that you wouldn't want played on your mother, sister, or cousin. Why? Because somewhere, there is another man who feels the same way you feel when you see a close female in your life hurting due to the nonsense plays of another male. This man will in fact KICK YOUR TAIL! It's not that you don't know better, it's simply that you choose not to act upon what you've been taught. And in some cases, you DON'T know better. This is no fault to you, but to the man who should have been teaching you how to be a man. Men like this are also to blame for the insecurities in the woman or young lady whom you're trying to play into sex. I whole heartedly appreciate those of you who have stepped up. To those of you who haven't yet taken that stride, it's time. I won't hold it against you... I promise! :)

In conclusion, CLARITY is CRUCIAL! Let's get it together people.

Another work of DiViNE ENERGY. More to come!
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